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…So, in the end, the fleshing of herself, the Skeleton Woman enacts the entire creation process, but rather than beginning as a baby, in the way Westerners are taught to think about life and death, she begins as bones and fleshes out her life. She teaches the man to make new life. She shows him the way of the heart is the way of creation. She shows him that creation is a series of births and deaths. She teaches that protectionism creates nothing, selfishness creates nothing, holding on and screaming effects nothing. Only letting go, giving heart, the great drum, the great instrument of the wild nature, only that creates.

That is how love relationship is meant to work, each partner transforming the other. The strength and power of each is untangled, shared. He gives her heart drum. She gives him knowledge of the most complicated rhythms and emotions imaginable. Who knows what they will hunt together? We only know that they will be nourished to the end of their days. ~Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Women Who Run with the Wolves Chapter 5 Hunting: When the Heart is a Lonely Hunter

 

Saturn in Libra and Creating New Relationship Forms
When Saturn first entered Libra in 2009 a process of collective growth and maturation accelerated in the area of conscious equal partnership and relationship. It has been interesting to witness this acceleration as old paradigm based relationships reach a breaking point, either breaking down and breaking apart or breaking down to come together in a more wholistic and fulfilling way. This has been evident in all kinds of relationships including the polarization of the political parties who are displaying the limitations of the old competitive relationship models that are not sustainable and will ultimately continue to break down.

It is also interesting to note the plethora of relationship workshops, classes, books, etc that have flooded the consciousness communities in recent months. Clearly this is a subject that has captured our attention and is part of our continued growth in maturing in our understanding that we are all connected and how we relate to each other and to the Earth is a key to our survival.

The Secret Wedding
I am grateful to be involved in a conscious equal partnership with my beloved Peter Klein. Our commitment to engaging relationship in a new conscious and respectful way has not always been easy but it certainly has been well worth the journey. Peter and I joined in a secret ceremonial Sacred Union on October 22, 2006 at a Long Canyon medicine wheel in Sedona, Arizona.

Oct 22, 2006 Cayelin and Peter's Sacred Union Ceremony in Sedona

We choose the date because it was less than 24 hours after the Libra New Moon and Venus (sacred feminine) and Mars (sacred masculine) were together with the Sun (the source) in the last degrees of Libra, the primary archetype focused on the path of conscious equal partnership. From a Shamanic Astrology perspective Venus and Mars were off the world stage, meaning they were not visible in either the morning or evening sky. Said another way they were not visible in either the morning or evening sky so they were not visible in the middle world reality. When this occurs it symbolizes a time when Venus and Mars are not engaged in any of the projects of the old relationship paradigm, but rather are with the Sun sourcing new ways of expressing sacred union in conscious equal partnership between the sacred masculine and sacred feminine.

Symbolically we saw this as the perfect Time for sourcing a new relationship paradigm of conscious equal partnership and sacred union that was NOT subject to any personal or collective beliefs and opinions about marriage. Since Peter and I both had previously failed marriages we knew it was important to hold a strong intention to create a new context for this type of committed relationship.

There were only three people who attended our wedding ceremony; the person officiating and two witnesses, all sworn to secrecy for the next year and a day. The reason for the secrecy was because we were holding our ceremonial intent in sacred trust to give the intention time to establish itself fully in the middle world without any interference from the old paradigm.

The wedding ceremony took place the day after a 28 degree Libra New Moon and as already mentioned included a very close (within a degree) Venus and Mars conjunction. At the time of our wedding, almost 20 hours after the exact New Moon, the Moon had moved into Scorpio. We felt the Scorpio Moon was the perfect symbol for our secret wedding as Scorpio understands the value of keeping a secret when it is serving a sacred intent with a specific time limit for a ceremonial purpose. (Plus we are both Scorpio Rising so the Scorpio Moon also helps to inform our personal and collective intent.)

Sharing Our Secret
A year and a day after our ceremony we did begin sharing with friends and family that we had secretly gotten married. Though we didn’t share about it much beyond that until….in September 2010 as I was completing the October Celestial Timings I found myself unexpectedly rewriting the introduction I had already written to share about our secret sacred union. This was motivated by the re-union of Venus and Mars in the evening sky at that time. The feedback I received was so supportive I decided to re-post this here in hopes that it might further inspire others who are consciously engaging their own Sacred Union process regardless of whether it is with an external beloved, or the Inner Other, or both.

It is important to know that Peter and I have navigated many ups and downs over the years as we have encountered our fears and past wounds. We are committed to the ongoing process of clearing all that has not been in alignment with the ceremonial commitments and intentions we made in 2006. It has been a wondrous and sometimes challenging sacred union journey, and we both feel it is by far more amazing and supportive than what we were imagining when we got married.

Committing to Sacred Union
What follows are the main commitments we made to each other and what we truly strive to live by – although admittedly sometimes more easily and gracefully than others! I am sharing these with you as way to inspire your own conscious commitment to a sacred union journey including the sacred union with the divine within each of us. These commitments are meant to be inspiration for you to discover your own language for committing to sacred union with yourself or with a significant other. If you are doing this for yourself only you can change the language to reflect your individual commitment to being your own best partner.

The statements below are modified somewhat but still represent the essence of what Peter and I committed to on October 22, 2006…

We are committing to:

• our own complete development as an individual so we can show up fully in our relationship together
• clearing up and transforming whatever prevents us from fully showing up and fully loving ourselves so that we can love each other without projections or expectations
• continuing to move fear and shadow stuff, revealing all of who we are for the purpose of going further up and deeper into our relationship with each other – even when we feel scared and want to run away
• acting from the awareness that we are each 100 percent the source of our reality – and the other is a mirror that helps us to know how well we are doing with creating our reality (even when we aren’t liking what the other is mirroring and especially when we are liking it)
• the healthy full empowerment of ourselves and each other and all those around us
• having a really REALLY good time (fun, fun, fun) in our relationship and all our other close relationships
• making each other a priority and sending each other our best energy and love each and every day
• our sacred union as a path to fulfill our divine purpose individually and together

It IS done and it IS So and we give thanks!

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